And that’s the real secret code behind the game of romance and making a guy fall hard for you. If you’ve been seeing a guy for less than a couple of months and haven’t given the relationship a real name, you’re in the dating phase.
The two phases of romance To experience a happy relationship with a guy, you need to understand the two phases in romance. And anything romantic beyond those first couple of months, you’re in the relationship phase.
Here are nine things to avoid doing in the first month of dating: 1. Here’s a rule you can steal from “How I Met Your Mother”: “Never make plans with a date further in the future than the amount of time you’ve been going out.” Of course, in non-sitcom land, this rule gets voided once you’re in a serious, committed relationship — otherwise, no one could ever make marriage vows — but in the first month of dating, keep plans for the future at a minimum.
This should be a no-pressure time to get to know one another.
(LTK): What happens after two people decide they want to spend time together in a dating context?
(LG): Stage two is the romantic stage and usually lasts for two to three months.
And in that excitement, it’s easy to jump ahead and make some big dating mistakes.
Keep your date from getting overwhelmed — and guard your own heart — by taking things slow. In the meantime, just keep things at “like” and reassure your date that you’re interested in moving forward. It can come across as too eager — or worse, desperate.
Also, no one wants to hear that you’ve been planning a wedding on your own. Meeting up with some friends or a sibling for a drink is one thing, inviting your date to your aunt’s birthday party is another. You don’t want your grandma coming to conclusions about the where the relationship is headed before you do. Don’t overwhelm your date with unnecessary (and bitter) details in the early stages of a relationship.