What you are forgetting is that there is a third option: the option taught to us by our beloved Prophet (sws).Let us examine each of the three options for meeting a marriage partner: One option is dating. First, the Prophet (sws) has taught us that it is haram for a non-mahram (unrelated) man and a woman to be alone together. Department of Justice, 68% of young girls raped knew their rapist either as a boyfriend, friend or casual acquaintance, and 60% of rapes of young women occur in their own home or a friend or relative’s home – not in a dark alley.To save yourself from the troubles of committing a mistake, there are some important Muslim dating rules that you have to keep in mind.Probably the most traditional rule in Muslim dating is the fact that this is not meant for new experiences or fun for adolescents.As Muslim dating rule strictly make it a point that dating must not happen before marriage, it is only common for men and women to be engaged right away if they feel interested with each other.They still need to spend some time during the period of engagement and marriage for them to get to know one another. Last time we spoke about the idea of dating and how this aligns with the modern Muslim.
Dating sure is one complicated thing, and it doesn’t matter if you are of the same religious affiliation or not.
by Yasmin Mogahed Reprinted from Suhaib As-salamu `alaykum brother, Thank you for the honest question you asked regarding dating. First, you have pointed out that you live in a society where dating is the norm.
While I understand and sympathize with that struggle, it is important to make clear that just because something is the norm in one’s society, does not justify participating in it.
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